Advice can be an immensely valuable thing. Someone else has done it or lived it…or endured it, and they have something valuable to say on the matter. Often, the thing – be it a tip or a nugget of wisdom – is of great value. But then, I have observed another aspect of advice. It seems a lot of people, when they give out advice (especially when it is too eagerly dispensed or personal gain is at stake) what they are really saying is, Here’s what I did and how I did it and you should too.
Well, the short of it is…maybe not. Who is this person anyway? Are they someone I admire? Did I solicit the advice? Even if both answers are positive (I admire this person and I wanted their advice), is it really good for me or my situation?
I think we often give too much equal weight to advice, without applying some [perhaps worthwhile] filters. It may not follow that just because this person was successful at something, and did it in such-and-such a way, that it will work for you or me. In fact, it may come to light with a bit of thinking on it, that whatever the result it still isn’t a good idea. That is, probably there’s a better way to approach or tackle this issue than the method offered.